Hey Soul Sistas

Hey Sistas,

Are you or ever been embarrassed, upset, or simply fed up with the image of women of color that is portrayed in today’s society.  Personally, I am so fed up that I  decided to start Hey Soul Sistas.  My vision was to create a movement that will change the way society sees us and most of all the way we see ourselves.  Women of color have been given many negative labels  and the sad thing about that is that many of us have become products of the negative image that society has branded us with.  The relationships between woman of color have been affected by this as well.  Personally, I want something more for myself and my sistas.  I am tired of hearing women complain about other women or say that they can not be friends with other females.  I believe that it can be different.  Women of color can be friends, there can be unity between us, and most of all we can help each other get through life.  We all know that life can be hectic and it is difficult to survive it alone, it would be wonderful to have others help us along the way.  I don’t mind sharing my experiences with another sister.  If she is going through something I already conquered it is only right to offer a helping hand.  That is what Hey Soul Sistas is about.  Sistas helping Sistas.  Isn’t that the way it’s supposed to be?  Aren’t we supposed to be supportive, loving, caring, and real with one another.  If you feel the same as I do and want to be a part of the strong sistas trying to make a difference please join me at Hey Soul Sistas.  My goal with Hey Soul Sistas is to connect women of color through common issues while educating and entertaining.  The problem that I am having is that I can not do this alone.  I need assistance from all my sistas.  I need your participation.  By commenting on our updates and blogs, taking part in our polls and forums, and answering our research questions you will have the opportunity to help, inspire, and educate other sistas.  You can encourage others through your experiences.  Just knowing that someone else has overcame the same issues can give many the hope they need to go on.  I would like to thank all of you for your support and participation this far and I thank those in advance that may choose to become more involved with Hey Soul Sistas.  If you have any questions, suggestions, or inquiries please contact me through the HSS Facebook page or email me at meka@heysoulsistas.com.

Hey Soul Sistas

Hey Sistas,

Are you or ever been embarrassed, upset, or simply fed up with the image of women of color that is portrayed in today’s society.  Personally, I am so fed up that I  decided to start Hey Soul Sistas.  My vision was to create a movement that will change the way society sees us and most of all the way we see ourselves.  Women of color have been given many negative labels  and the sad thing about that is that many of us have become products of the negative image that society has branded us with.  The relationships between woman of color have been affected by this as well.  Personally, I want something more for myself and my sistas.  I am tired of hearing women complain about other women or say that they can not be friends with other females.  I believe that it can be different.  Women of color can be friends, there can be unity between us, and most of all we can help each other get through life.  We all know that life can be hectic and it is difficult to survive it alone, it would be wonderful to have others help us along the way.  I don’t mind sharing my experiences with another sister.  If she is going through something I already conquered it is only right to offer a helping hand.  That is what Hey Soul Sistas is about.  Sistas helping Sistas.  Isn’t that the way it’s supposed to be?  Aren’t we supposed to be supportive, loving, caring, and real with one another.  If you feel the same as I do and want to be a part of the strong sistas trying to make a difference please join me at Hey Soul Sistas.  My goal with Hey Soul Sistas is to connect women of color through common issues while educating and entertaining.  The problem that I am having is that I can not do this alone.  I need assistance from all my sistas.  I need your participation.  By commenting on our updates and blogs, taking part in our polls and forums, and answering our research questions you will have the opportunity to help, inspire, and educate other sistas.  You can encourage others through your experiences.  Just knowing that someone else has overcame the same issues can give many the hope they need to go on.  I would like to thank all of you for your support and participation this far and I thank those in advance that may choose to become more involved with Hey Soul Sistas.  If you have any questions, suggestions, or inquiries please contact me through the HSS Facebook page or email me at meka@heysoulsistas.com.

Hey Soul Sistas

Hey Sistas,

Are you or ever been embarrassed, upset, or simply fed up with the image of women of color that is portrayed in today’s society.  Personally, I am so fed up that I  decided to start Hey Soul Sistas.  My vision was to create a movement that will change the way society sees us and most of all the way we see ourselves.  Women of color have been given many negative labels  and the sad thing about that is that many of us have become products of the negative image that society has branded us with.  The relationships between woman of color have been affected by this as well.  Personally, I want something more for myself and my sistas.  I am tired of hearing women complain about other women or say that they can not be friends with other females.  I believe that it can be different.  Women of color can be friends, there can be unity between us, and most of all we can help each other get through life.  We all know that life can be hectic and it is difficult to survive it alone, it would be wonderful to have others help us along the way.  I don’t mind sharing my experiences with another sister.  If she is going through something I already conquered it is only right to offer a helping hand.  That is what Hey Soul Sistas is about.  Sistas helping Sistas.  Isn’t that the way it’s supposed to be?  Aren’t we supposed to be supportive, loving, caring, and real with one another.  If you feel the same as I do and want to be a part of the strong sistas trying to make a difference please join me at Hey Soul Sistas.  My goal with Hey Soul Sistas is to connect women of color through common issues while educating and entertaining.  The problem that I am having is that I can not do this alone.  I need assistance from all my sistas.  I need your participation.  By commenting on our updates and blogs, taking part in our polls and forums, and answering our research questions you will have the opportunity to help, inspire, and educate other sistas.  You can encourage others through your experiences.  Just knowing that someone else has overcame the same issues can give many the hope they need to go on.  I would like to thank all of you for your support and participation this far and I thank those in advance that may choose to become more involved with Hey Soul Sistas.  If you have any questions, suggestions, or inquiries please contact me through the HSS Facebook page or email me at meka@heysoulsistas.com.

Hey Soul Sistas

Hey Sistas,

Are you or ever been embarrassed, upset, or simply fed up with the image of women of color that is portrayed in today’s society.  Personally, I am so fed up that I  decided to start Hey Soul Sistas.  My vision was to create a movement that will change the way society sees us and most of all the way we see ourselves.  Women of color have been given many negative labels  and the sad thing about that is that many of us have become products of the negative image that society has branded us with.  The relationships between woman of color have been affected by this as well.  Personally, I want something more for myself and my sistas.  I am tired of hearing women complain about other women or say that they can not be friends with other females.  I believe that it can be different.  Women of color can be friends, there can be unity between us, and most of all we can help each other get through life.  We all know that life can be hectic and it is difficult to survive it alone, it would be wonderful to have others help us along the way.  I don’t mind sharing my experiences with another sister.  If she is going through something I already conquered it is only right to offer a helping hand.  That is what Hey Soul Sistas is about.  Sistas helping Sistas.  Isn’t that the way it’s supposed to be?  Aren’t we supposed to be supportive, loving, caring, and real with one another.  If you feel the same as I do and want to be a part of the strong sistas trying to make a difference please join me at Hey Soul Sistas.  My goal with Hey Soul Sistas is to connect women of color through common issues while educating and entertaining.  The problem that I am having is that I can not do this alone.  I need assistance from all my sistas.  I need your participation.  By commenting on our updates and blogs, taking part in our polls and forums, and answering our research questions you will have the opportunity to help, inspire, and educate other sistas.  You can encourage others through your experiences.  Just knowing that someone else has overcame the same issues can give many the hope they need to go on.  I would like to thank all of you for your support and participation this far and I thank those in advance that may choose to become more involved with Hey Soul Sistas.  If you have any questions, suggestions, or inquiries please contact me through the HSS Facebook page or email me at meka@heysoulsistas.com.

Hey Soul Sistas

Hey Sistas,

Are you or ever been embarrassed, upset, or simply fed up with the image of women of color that is portrayed in today’s society.  Personally, I am so fed up that I  decided to start Hey Soul Sistas.  My vision was to create a movement that will change the way society sees us and most of all the way we see ourselves.  Women of color have been given many negative labels  and the sad thing about that is that many of us have become products of the negative image that society has branded us with.  The relationships between woman of color have been affected by this as well.  Personally, I want something more for myself and my sistas.  I am tired of hearing women complain about other women or say that they can not be friends with other females.  I believe that it can be different.  Women of color can be friends, there can be unity between us, and most of all we can help each other get through life.  We all know that life can be hectic and it is difficult to survive it alone, it would be wonderful to have others help us along the way.  I don’t mind sharing my experiences with another sister.  If she is going through something I already conquered it is only right to offer a helping hand.  That is what Hey Soul Sistas is about.  Sistas helping Sistas.  Isn’t that the way it’s supposed to be?  Aren’t we supposed to be supportive, loving, caring, and real with one another.  If you feel the same as I do and want to be a part of the strong sistas trying to make a difference please join me at Hey Soul Sistas.  My goal with Hey Soul Sistas is to connect women of color through common issues while educating and entertaining.  The problem that I am having is that I can not do this alone.  I need assistance from all my sistas.  I need your participation.  By commenting on our updates and blogs, taking part in our polls and forums, and answering our research questions you will have the opportunity to help, inspire, and educate other sistas.  You can encourage others through your experiences.  Just knowing that someone else has overcame the same issues can give many the hope they need to go on.  I would like to thank all of you for your support and participation this far and I thank those in advance that may choose to become more involved with Hey Soul Sistas.  If you have any questions, suggestions, or inquiries please contact me through the HSS Facebook page or email me at meka@heysoulsistas.com.

Taking Care of Yourself

How can you expect a man to take care of you
When you don’t do that yourself
You should be your own prize possession
The center of your own wealth
You put so much time and energy into everyone else
Working night and day
Making sure everyone is okay
You are wife, mother, sister, lover
Aunt, friend
The list never ends
You are the solver of all issues
Whether frivolous or official
But what about you
It is time to change a thing or two
It’s time for you to take care of you
You must take good care of number one
Because without you nothing will get done

Taking Care of Yourself – In Dating

Taking Care of Yourself -In Dating

Rules-2-300x297.jpg - Flock.jpgWhen we are looking for that special one, sometimes we can be so caught up in the finding of Mr. Right that we can forget some things that will help and protect us.  Do not let pressures to find a mate lead you to make mistakes.  As women, we must be careful when it comes to dating because there are so many dangers in the world.  You must take care of yourself in dating, just as you do with your health and finances.  Listed below are a few tips on how to take care of yourself while dating.

1. Do Not Appear Desperate

Whether you are casually dating or looking for a long term love you cannot appear desperate.  When you appear needy, men will try to get over on you. They will attempt to pull a wool over your eyes and tell you anything.  They think that because your desires for a man are so strong that they could get away with doing anything and telling you anything.  Men feed off your attitude about yourself and will use your weaknesses against you. 
               
2.  Know Who You Are Dating / Get Info

When you meet someone you are interested in or that you find attractive sometimes you can become so taken by their physical appearance that we forget to ask the real questions.  The questions that will tell you who they really are.  Doing that is a major no- no.  Before making a date, talk to him and ask him questions about his life, family, and job.  Listen carefully and pay attention, if the little things are not adding up than there is sure to be drama down the line.

Another important thing to do is to make sure the person you are dating is who they say they are.  Whether you meet someone at work, at the club, through a good friend, or in church it is always wise to run a background check on them.  Another tool in gathering info is simply talking to people who know him.  Do not be afraid of offending anyone because at this point your main concern is you.

3. Don’t Keep Secrets

No matter who you are dating never keep them all to yourself.  It is understandable that when you are in the beginning stages of a relationship you may not feel comfortable sharing info; however, you must confide in someone.  Tell a bestie, your sister, or your mom as many details about the person you are dating.  You don’t have to share the details of the relationship but someone should know who you are spending time with.

*On first dates have your date meet you at the destination or at a home of friends/family, so that they can meet him.  Also, send a pic of your date along with a brief description and his vehicle details (including license plate #) to a responsible friend/family member.   This may seem excessive but it could save your life.

4.  Trust Your Gut

W omen’s intuition is the greatest tool to use while dating.  If you sense something is not right, most likely something is wrong.  Don’t ignore your gut feelings, because he is fine or because you are lonely.  You intuition can save you from heartache and danger, be sure to use it.

5. Slow Down

Don’t rush into anything.  If for any reason things do not work with one guy then he wasn’t meant for you and your soul mate is still waiting for you.  Every woman deserves the best and good things come to those who wait.

Taking Care of Yourself – In Relationships

Taking Care of Yourself – In Relationships

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When love comes along and knocks us down it usually happens so fast that we don’t have the time to think about whether the choices we are making are the best for us.  There is nothing wrong with that; however, at some point you must come down from the clouds and analyze everything.  Love is emotional but we need the help of our brain to keep us from making mistakes.  When in a relationship your mate is supposed to take care of you and that feels great; nonetheless, there are some things you must do for yourself.  Even if your love life is wonderful there are still a few things you need to  do to make sure your needs are being met and that you will continue to be happy. 

1.  You Are Being Respected

The most important thing in any relationship is respect.  Without respect there can not be trust or love.  Respect must be established from the start of the relationship.  If you being disrespected by your mate you should definitely reconsider the relationship.
 
2. You Have Your Own Identity

Being in a relationship is about sharing your life with someone and not about giving up your life to please someone else.  If you find that you are disappearing in your relationship you must make changes.

3. Open & Honest

For any relationship to be successful there must be openness and honesty.  You should feel comfortable enough to talk to your partner about anything and they should feel the same way.  A relationship built on honesty and openness will be beneficial to all involved. 

4. Financially Secure

Having love, trust, and respect are all things needed to maintain a lasting relationship; however, financial security is also very important to have.  I’m not suggesting that you become a gold digger or only date someone based on how much money they have but you do want to make sure that you will not have to take care of a grown man and that you won’t end up broke.  Make sure your spouse will be able to be your partner in all things.